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Mom funk. How do you get out of it?

Today is definitely a mom-funk type of day.

And it’s crazy because Madison slept through the whole night, which she has been doing for almost two weeks straight now. Yay! She does have a tooth or two cutting through right now, so she’s been very whiny and needy today, which eats away at me.

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But I woke up in a pretty good mood, and then it turned bad, seemingly all of a sudden. It’s just how it goes, sometimes.

I have a lot of work and writing to do, and I’m just itching to do it all the time. And I don’t quite have my schedule fully set up, yet. Alan just switched to working till 10 p.m. and doesn’t go in until 1:30, so he’s here during Madi’s nap, which is when I used to work. Now I will be able to work after I put her to bed at night, but that was usually when I would eat and relax for the night. So it’s all needing to be adjusted, and will just be weird until then.

I’m honestly used to being in this funk! But I hate it!

The dogs are constantly frustrating me. They LOVE to eat cat poop from the litter box. And not just the poop…they eat the pee clumps, too. It’s so disgusting and it makes me so angry! We have a gate that we kept in the way of the laundry room, where we keep the litter boxes, but we had to use it for a baby gate, because one of the dogs broke the baby gate. So, the laundry room is accessible to them and they have been chowing down the past couple of days. They’re very sneaky. I usually don’t know it’s happening until they walk past the living room chomping and licking their lips. It’s nasty. So sorry for the details.

They also love to bark, as do the dogs in the house behind us, but I will bring ours in when they start barking like crazy, these people will not. So, that’s fun when Madi’s sleeping (forehead slap). Champ will want to stay outside sometimes when I need him to come inside because I’m putting Madison down for her nap. I will call him, clap my hands, snap my fingers, use my deep growl voice, none of it works. He stands there staring at me like I’m a weirdo. Which means that I have to get my shoes on and walk out there so that he runs from me back to the door, thinking I’m playing with him. He drives my crazy!!!

And then the cats will fight loudly during Madison’s nap, upstairs, near her room, and I just worry that she’ll wake up. The kitchen cabinets get slammed by forgetful others who live with me, who will rename nameless, and the kitchen is right below her room, so it resounds up there loudly.

I’m constantly uptight about her sleep. She’s doing well, now, but for about nine months now, it’s been this stressful thing. My shoulders are used to being in my ears. I’m used to getting so upset at the animals for just doing what they do. They make noise. They play. They bark. They fight. It just is what it is. I’m used to getting mad at Alan for just talking to me when I’m trying to work, or for not doing something that I asked him to. But he’s an imperfect person who makes mistakes, just like me.

I realize these things too late, often times. After I’ve given attitude to Alan for no apparent reason to him. After I’ve yelled at the dogs and maybe thrown things (I’m getting better at not throwing things, honestly. I want to set a good example for my daughter).

The funk is sneaky. It pops up and attaches to you and you don’t realize until it’s teeth are sunk in deep! At that point, it’s almost more difficult to get rid of it than to just let it play out…all day.

But today, I am doing a few things to fix it:

1. I came right downstairs after I put Madi down for her nap, instead of going into the room to talk to Alan, wasting precious time before he comes downstairs to eat. (Still working on my schedule to be able to work while also making sure that we are spending enough time together. Lately, I have been working in my mind while we’re together, and am on my phone, and thinking, and just not fully here, and he knows it.)

2. I put on relaxing music. YouTube is amazing, just saying.

3. I told my mom that I need to work, and that the T.V. being on really does distract me. (She just moved here from Georgia and is staying with us until she finds a place.) I thought I could focus on what I’m doing, even with the background noise, but the truth is that I can’t. I had to acknowledge that and then confront it.

4. I took MANY deep breaths, with my eyes closed and head back, while listening to the music.

5. I vented here.

Being in a funk is not always something that can be fixed by things changing. Sometimes, you just have to figure out what you can do to make you better in the situations. Change the things you can – you. You have control over what you do.

Find your things that make you feel better.

I think the funk comes from wanting things to be a certain way, and then not getting it. And from being overwhelmed (hello, mom life!).

And it’s always when you need peace the most, that the waves crash against you like crazy. When you need the baby to sleep, they wake up. When you need the dogs to be quiet, they bark. When you need the house silent and peaceful, everyone wants to talk to you.

Everyone gets in a funk sometimes, and is overwhelmed. But I relate to Mom Funk currently. When you have a baby, there is no break, especially if you’re like me and just want to be smothered with your baby all the time. I choose to not take time for myself, but I’m getting to the point of knowing that I should.

I read a mom’s instagram post today saying that she’s “guilty” of putting herself above her daughter, because sometimes she just needs alone time. I don’t look at it as necessarily putting herself first, but it kind of is, in a way. It doesn’t mean you’re putting your baby last, you’re just making sure that you get what you need, too. And it’s important to do! Nothing AT ALL to feel guilty about, but we know that’s easier said than done.

You can only give from a full cup.

Make sure you are filling your cup, Mama. Because it might be empty, like mine today.

Take your break. Have your spouse, parent, friend, babysitter, watch the kids so you can just go out and breathe quietly for a bit. Go get a manicure. Get your hair done. Have some ice cream all to yourself. See some friends. Or even just go for a walk.

Just because we’re moms doesn’t mean we don’t still need things for ourselves. Sometimes we want to eat our food while it’s still warm, and not share it! And that is perfectly okay.

We love our babies and give everything we can to them. We just have to be sure and love ourselves, too. Give more to you.

Do what you need to do to be okay. And the funk will leave.

P.S. I feel much better now. Thank you for taking the time to listen to my venting. Feel free to vent below in a comment, if you need to!

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